Articles on this topic have been popping up a lot lately so I thought it was about time I said my piece.
Let me give you a scenario: A woman walked into a bathroom to find another woman on the phone engaged in a heated conversation. She wanted to leave to find an emptier bathroom but this was the closest one and she really needs to wash her hands. She does so while mumbling "sorry, sorry, sorry" then exits quickly.
What's wrong with this picture? Well first of all it's a PUBLIC bathroom, a PUBLIC space that is not owned by the idviduals that use it. Furthermore, it is the woman inside the restroom that should have said sorry and found a more suitable space to have a conversation.
As women we get into scenarios like this on a daily basis; weather its using the office microwave before someone else, speaking to someone who was "working", walking in between people who take up to much space, visiting your professor during office hours, coughing, chewing, crunching, sneezing, clicking a pen and even BREATHING. You name it and we've probably apologized for it. Why do we constanly apologize for existing in a space that happens to be occupied by other people? Think about the last time you heard a man apologize for sneezing or coughing. That's right, it never happens.
Now now, I do not want to make this a men vs women situation because in truth I don't think men would care or even notice if we stopped apologizing for everything. INFACT I think it would help many relationships. By apologizing for small things women are discrediting the meaning behind their honest apologies.
Saying sorry is supposed to be followed by ACTION, action put in place to insure that you do not make the same "mistake" over again. Well, washing your hands, warming up food, asking a question, visiting your professor and sneezing ARE NOT mistakes. Therefore an apology should not follow.
If you are wondering why we have such a strong need to say sorry for any distruption we may cause I have a theory: Politeness. A woman's politeness is one of her more delicate, sutable and attractive charecteristics and men generally drift towards polite women. Being confrontational usually puts a woman outside of her comfort zone and makes those awkward monets tense. For instance in the microwave scenario saying sorry allows those first few awakrd momnents and thoughts of annoyance and impatience to pass by quicker and causes the person waiting to offer some type of consolidation such as "That's alright." or "Its fine." which in turn gives you YOUR piece of mind. So there you have it: women apologize more for self profit then politeness!
Nevertheless, saying sorry for existing makes women appear weak, unsure of our self and our decisions which we are NOT. So the next time you cough, sneeze, cry or laugh loudly in the middle of class try not to apologize because, are you really even sorry?
I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions!xx
Okay maybe that is a bit of a stretch but for the most part it's true. It's my senior year of high school so naturally I've begun to look at colleges and even taken a couple of physical tours at my top priority schools. I've known I wanted to be a Psychiatrist for some time now but I was dreading majoring in a hard (pure) science such as biology.
A couple of friends and I took a tour of Emory University, the Harvard of the south, where they essentially broke down what many schools have failed to point out in their information sessions (even the medical schools): Pre med, Pre vet, Pre dentistry and Pre pharmacy are NOT majors, they are Paths. That's right, what this means is that pre professional health is little more than a series of courses you must complete SOME TIME in no given order over the course of your undergraduate education to meet the requirements for Medical school. So essentially an art theater major who has a CONCENTRATION in pre-med can go on to be a world renowned physician, however they now have options in two very different fields.
You can imagine my surprise upon hearing this. I can now spend the next four years of my life studying something that interest me while also fulfilling the requirements to help me reach my ultimate goal; I had cushion to fall back on. The path system can also help physicians specialize faster by allowing them to focus on other areas of study that will become similar in their life time. For instance, I want to become a Child Psychiatrist, but I also want to work on and study major neuroscience research. Therefore I could chose to Double major in Neuroscience and Psychology w/ a concentration in Pre-med. It sounds like a lot of work to complete but you would be surprised at how much you can make it work if you keep close and intimate contact with your counselors.
The course requirement list usually follows as something like this:
- One year of biology with lab
-One year of General Chemistry with lab
-One year of organic chemistry with lab
-one year of physics
-College level math
-Biochemistry is highly encouraged*
Now it has to be understood that I am not saying it will be this ideal at every school. This however is the structure at most liberal arts colleges because they encourage students to independently find their own way through college and study subjects that interest them.
So next time your at the doctors office ask your doctor what they majored in. The answer may surprise you.
What do you guys want to study?
Hey guys, tell me what you think?